How to make your Husband HAPPY ?

Written by Rab!a on 27 November 2008

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The following article is a summary of the book “How to Make Your Husband Happy” by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.

1. Beautiful Reception

After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,

2. Beautify and Soften the Voice

For your husband only, it shouldn’t be used in front of non-mahram men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried)

3. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

Take good care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoos
Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course only act as such in front of mahram men and women.

4. Intercourse

Hasten for intercourse when your husband feels compulsion for it.
Keep your body clean and smelling good as possible including cleaning yourself of released fluids during intercourse.
Exchange loving phrases with your husband.
Leave your husband to fully satisfy his desire.
Choose suitable times and good occasions for exciting your husband and encouraging him to do intercourse, e.g. after returning from a travel, weekends, etc.

5. Satisfaction With What Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) Has Allotted

You shouldn’t be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job
You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (subhaanahu wa ta’aalaa) for all that was given to you.
You should remember that real wealth lies in faith and piety.

6. Indifference to Worldly Things

You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the Hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Al-Jannah).
Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

7. Appreciation

By the saying of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam), the majority of people in Hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways
The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: “Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?”

8. Devotion and Loyalty

In particular in times of calamities in your husband’s body or business e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

9. Compliance to Him

In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram)
In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.

10. Pleasing Him If He Is Angry

First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger. But if it happens that you can’t, then try to appease him as follows:

Keep still instead of arguing or

Yield you right or

Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.

Keep silent until his anger goes

Find excuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, someone insulted him

You should tell me what happened!

I must know what made you so angry!

You are hiding something, and I have the right to know!

11. Guardianship While He is Absent

Protect yourself from any prohibited relations
Keep the secrets of the family, particularly intercourse and things that the husbands don’t like other people to know.
Take care of the house and children.
Take care of his money and properties
Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full Hijaab
Refuse people whom he does not like to come over
Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place
Be good with his parents and relatives in his absence